My friend was radiant, glowing in her white gown, a gorgeous bride. But her physical appearance paled against the backdrop of Christ radiating through her.
She’s one of those rare, costly gems.
We’ve laughed a lot over the last several years. We’ve cried a lot too, processing much grief and grace together. And we’ve dived deep into Jesus.
We’ve also spray painted countless (well 250) wine bottles, and have borne the black, stained hands to prove it. It’s been such a joy to share in the excitement of my friends’ wedding and marriage planning. Such a joy.
The edges of her veil sparkled, the tiny beadwork complemented her dress perfectly. I know the veil well; it has hung in my closet for the last six years. It’s not uncommon that I stop in my tracks and admire the delicate pattern sewn into the tulle, lingering to recall the day it adorned my own hair. Sharing my veil with Bobbi made my heart sing.
Standing behind her, with my hand on her arm, I brushed away tears, while others prayed. It felt like such a privilege to be counted among her closest friends, together bringing her marriage before the throne.
I began to speak, my turn to pray. I thanked God for such dear, beautiful friends, and asked that God be exalted in their marriage, that the gospel of Christ resonate from them. I asked God to grow them in grace and love for one another.
And then I pled “Lord, please give them many years together.”
A sob caught in my throat. I paused long, willing myself to go on, to push through my own emotions and the collective emotions around me.
My emotion was for her, knowing she has faced the death of both parents, knowing her new husband has leukemia. He has an excellent prognosis, and doctors believe there is no reason he won’t have a long, healthy life. But sill they have faced many unknowns over the last few months.
I don’t want any of my friends to know the reality of a husband dying young. So I pray, “Lord if it be your will, give them many years. Let them grow old and gray together.”
So I suppose my sob was a little bit for me too, There was a moment of grief for the years Jon and I did not have.
But also tied in the tangle of emotions, was another face, a hazel-eyed, six foot two, giant teddy bear who has stolen my heart. I’ve been given another good gift. And I marvel that I am again cherished. So much overwhelming joy!
I have said it before—because of the gospel, joy and sorrow mingle in a beautiful dance. And they danced flawlessly in this poignant moment where time stood still.
I think it’s only when we walk through the deep grief, that we begin to understand how joy and sorrow can complement each other like intricate beadwork against a stunning wedding gown.
So clearly I saw the gospel.
On her wedding day, she was spotless, a dazzling bride, completely ready for her groom. Abundant joy overflowed. But there were still mixed emotions.
She missed her parents.
I missed Jon.
Because we’re caught between the already and the not yet, we miss them. We know we’ll see them again, but still we await eternity. There’s still sorrow because the world is still broken.
But I also saw restoration for my friend and for me. Jesus has given us beauty out of ashes. Ultimately He gives it in Himself, the best gift! He took sorrow, so we have joy. However, in great compassion, He gives beauty in ways that seem more tangible to our finite minds. Our God is that good.
Praise God for abundant, overflowing joy that is deeper, richer, and higher in the face of sorrow. Because of sorrow, joy is richer and peace is deeper. It’s one way He sanctifies.
And one day the mingling will cease. Sorrow will give way to inexplicable joy. And all the tears will be wiped away. He will glorify.
No matter how many earthly years my friends have, eternity awaits! Therefore, I pray confidently, “Give them many years.” Though they’ll no longer be joined in human marriage, they’ll be a part of the Great Marriage. They’ll have countless years.
And so will I.
As she eagerly anticipated her wedding day, so we long for the Grand Wedding when Christ returns to claim His bride.
It was delightfully happy day. I love weddings.
Though sorrow mingled, it graciously slid to the background, and made room for an explosion of vibrant joy that captivated the fore.
What a foretaste! How we long for the true Groom, with whom the years will be unending!
Come, Lord Jesus. Come
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Oh my, this is so beautiful I cried. I echo the heartache and the missing of my beloved one. Thank you for sharing. this ministered to my very soul. I know God is my husband… there are days when I miss him so much. I loved this post.
sitting here in a coffee shop working on a book I am hoping to write my story with my two beloved ones, Christ and my husband. and I am in tears over the beauty of this process. May God hold you close…
Thank you so much. I’m so thankful it blessed and strengthened you. I totally get it– Some days the missing is more acute. I’m so glad to hear you are writing also! Praying God will use your words greatly.–He does beautiful things. May God hold you close as well!
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